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Uma das garotas mais corajosas e inteligentes que eu conheço. Uma vez eu fui passar o dia em uma outra cidade, só porque sim, e ela se auto-convidou, e a gente andou e conversou um monte, bem lindo. E daí a gente foi andar de pedalinho. E estávamos os dois no meio de um lago longe de tudo e eu falei pra ela que se ela quisesse abusar de mim aquele seria o momento ideal. Ela respondeu que era mesmo. E ficamos em silêncio. Depois de noite ela comprou um monte de pinga, bebeu como uma louca, me levou pro quarto e me agarrou. Depois, não sei bem porque, eu falei de alguma coisa mais ou menos do tipo que talvez tivesse sido mais decente da minha parte não pegar ela quando ela estivesse bêbada, e ela perguntou porque eu achava que ela tinha bebido. ¡¡¡¿Mas eu tinha me entregado numa bandeja?!!!

E essa é uma das garotas mais bravas que eu conheço. Uma pessoa que tem a incrível força de ser quem ela é, tanto tanto que só quem conhece entende. E ainda assim, em algum lugar, ela queria que eu catasse ela e não o contrário. As garotas comuns, então… Parecem todas querer ser colhidas, como uma flor.

Há muitas maldições e calamidades nesse mundo, mas nenhuma parece tão completa e inescapável. E eu não entendo o por quê.

[N.: eu sei que em algum nível partilhar essa memória é uma forma de te trair, e eu queria muito muito poder pedir desculpas mas eu não posso. Você é tão linda como o vento.]

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The «Bateman Principle» is the idea that males are promiscuous “by nature” because they can have like zillions of offspring with different woman — thereby “winning the genetic lottery”. Despite it being proven to be bollocks even for simple organisms like drosophila, you can still hear such elements proposed seriously — even in the best families.

As you can imagine, such stupidity drives me nuts. Not only because it is extremely moralizing and prejudiced, but also because it is, simply put, wrong. My latest realization regarding it´s wrongness is that, in most complex species, having more children than the species average is a kind of reproductive failure(!). Read More »

Once i spent a day with a girl in a town far away from everything. We where at a pedalo in the middle of a lake, and i told her that if she was planning on smooching me that would be a perfect time. She said yes it would and did nothing. It was still cool to be around her even if she had just dumped me, but then again at night she drank an awful lot and jumped me. The other day i told her it would have been more decent of me not to hook up with her when she was drunk and she replied “Why do you think I drank that much?”

After i served myself on a platter, after i made it ridiculously clear i wanted her, she still could not go on and take me without a bunch of booze. Taking the initiative was not something inside her possibilities.

It’s, i don’t know, like girls think they are flowers, waiting to be plucked. It’s like they can’t exercise their wills. Like they can not take their own steps. Like a relationship for a woman is defined by relinquishing her will.

And if this sounds like i am chickening out: OK i could just go and take her, but i need her to say yes, i need her to say something, i need there to be a will at the other side of the relation, even if i take most of the steps, at least some of them must be taken by her, or else there is no together in this being together, a relationship begins to look like a thing.

{And this one girl was one of the strongest, brightest, amazing-est human beings i always met. Niki, sorry to share this memory, i know it is a way to betray you and there is no possible excuse.}

I am a young man with too much hormones. I just say it upfront so that you can vow never to shag me, if that is the only way you can take something a man says about female beauty seriously.

Bluntly, my point is: Women have been put on a pedestal. It is like being on a supermarket shelf. From up there, most think they are powerful, but it is actually a prison. Read More »

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