I’d like to give thanks to feminism.
That comes after i, grudgingly, reluctantly, finally came to accept that i am not, and should not be, a feminist. For most of my life i, a man, had been more of a riot grrrrl than mos of my girlfriends. I’d been enraged again and again for what i saw as submissive attitudes of them, even ones that could equally well be read as submission to me. In more than one way, i wanted the role of the girl: I wanted to be approached instead of to approach, i wanted to be seduced instead of seducing, i wanted to accommodate to their lives instead of providing a grand narrative for them to accommodate to. I actually felt that the two people in a relationship should do a bit of each, and it pissed me to no end that no woman at all accepted to. Lazy, prideless girls, i thought. But i came to realize it does not make any sense for them to do any of that, and it came together with me realizing feminism is not an answer to anything.
But feminism has been useful to me, in very personal ways, and i want to give thanks.
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Acceptance and understanding do not sense make, it is not like everyone is right and you see their points of view, it is more like they are all wrong, and their lives are just gonna keep on being wrong, and they simply will not see, there is not in them the ways to realize, and they are hurting you and not realizing, and they’d probably hate to know, but if you said it to them it would just cause more problems, and of course this is so, you can accept, and you can see, but this is not like school, where tests do have a right answer, this is like multiple choice where all the answers are incorrect, and it doesn’t make any difference, and if it did, if you went and tried to change things it would be not the world, it would be artificial, it would make even less sense, and everything is very much perfect because the need to make sense gets fainter and fainter…
So i was at this hostel and some guy asked me whether he should visit Brasília but, as i was about to answer, that insufferable chick kept sneering, anyway the thing got totally derailed, but it got me to realize i gave this rant so many times it should see online publishing.
So keep the following in mind: You’ve never gone to Brasília, you saw pictures maybe, you have no idea about it’s importance as for history of architecture. Should you go there?
You sure can see big concrete buildings at many other places. And there are way too many cool trips to be had in Brazil. But.
But Brasília is a city like no other. As such, it can be both a very revealing experience and a very difficult one to understand.
Maybe the best answer is: Go if you have the right guide. Read More »
One thing that, i guess, would help to understand me, (assuming anyone is trying to which is kinda arrogant but anyway), is the way i evaluate people. Because, you know, i am kinda good at the whole understanding people thing, which came as quite a surprise to me, when i realized it was the case. And of the various things i can or cannot do, this is one that does not translate easily into words, it is something that is very awkward to explain. So maybe it is not really straightforward, let me try to talk about it a little. Read More »